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“The Vagina Dialogues” week 2 recap: The ups and downs of sex

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Week 2 of “The Vagina Dialogues” was a deep dive into sexual wellness.

Orgasms and contraceptives — the two ingredients that help make sex great. Contraceptives may seem unsexy, but protecting yourself from unwanted pregnancies and sexually-transmitted infections (STIs) can go a long way towards putting you in the best state of mind to enjoy sex.

Ok, so once you’re in the mood, how do you go about achieving the big O? The panellists in the “Owning Your O: The Psychology of Sexual Empowerment” panel had some practical suggestions.

Jingjin Liu, the CEO and founder of sexual wellness company ZaZaZu, emphasised the importance of understanding yourself and your identity, and building up your confidence through self-exploration. Knowing what you like and what you want will help you speak up for your own pleasure in your sexual relationships.

“Sexuality informs identity. And if we are secure in our own identity, and that builds, actually, the ultimate confidence. Confidence in the end is what empowers us to go out, change the status quo, and change the world,” she said.

In fact, as an Intimacy Coach, Dr Angela Tan has it on good authority that communication is very important. Being able to talk to your partner openly about what you like and don’t like shouldn’t kill the mood. She advised normalising talking about intimacy through positive affirmations in the bedroom and by connecting with each other so you’re not just “using each other to masturbate”.

Cecile Gasnault of vibrator purveyors Smile Makers advocated taking charge of your own sex education. Understanding your body parts — in particular, pleasure receptors like the clitoris — and setting your own definitions of what sex is to you will help you to enjoy the act better.

“Sex is not only about having orgasms. Sex is not only about having partner sex…so it’s really about debunking those myths so you can understand and make space for yourself to write your own scripts,” she explained.

DrSmile Makers expands on this further in an opinion piece for TVD about female sexuality and the various ways women can take charge of their sexual pleasure.

Also on the TVD blog, ZaZaZu has provided guides to sex toys, while sexual wellness lifestyle brand We Are Fk’s Edwin Chan took a deep dive into the concept of “sexual wellness” and its importance.

Self-protection is wellness

Part of sexual wellness is protecting yourself from unwanted pregnancies and STIs. But this is not always as straightforward as it should be. There is still a lot of fear and shame around talking about and using contraceptives and STI testing.

The second TVD panel last week, “Sexual Health Stigmas: STIs & Contraception”, featured entrepreneurs who are making strides in this realm of sexual wellness to help empower women to take charge of their health.

Guadalupe Lazaro, CEO and founder of Ease Health, saw the need to make birth control accessible to women in a comfortable and discreet way. A survey conducted by the start-up found that stigma and the fear of being judged by doctors, nurses, pharmacists and even clinic receptionists were the greatest barrier to sexual and reproductive health access in Singapore.

“All these things that come up show how it clearly impacts the empowerment of girls and women. It makes them feel scared of taking care of their bodies. It makes them feel ashamed or guilty for their actions instead of making them feel good about making informed decisions,” she lamented.

The desire to overcome the stigma around testing is also what drives Xi Lui and Vivek Manoharan of Ferne Health. The company produces screening kits that can be used in the privacy of the home.

“People think only those who are very high risk should be taking tests, but it should be a very normalised thing. Most people should feel very empowered and comfortable to go for check-ups if you need it,” she observed.

In fact, Ferne Health argues that STIs are common, so getting tested should be a regular part of your wellness practice. And, as Ease Health opines, proper sex education is the best way to improve the status quo.

“The Vagina Dialogues” by LUÜNA naturals takes place throughout the month of August. Find out what’s next on the program.

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Tags : Cecile GasnaultDr Angela TanEase HealthFeminine HealthFerne HealthGuadalupe LazaroGynaecological HealthJingjin LiuLuuna NaturalsOrgasmsSexsexual wellnessSmile MakersSTIThe Vagina DialoguesVivek ManoharanXi LuiZaZaZu

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